All this harping about family and friends. Yes, they are all important. But you know what, I realized one thing. Only you will remain with yourself forever. No one else does. Not even your dog or your favorite dress. If something remains with you longer than normal, then it is not the same. The dog is old, the dress is tattered.
I never got this really. I am not sure I still get it deep down. I have realized it but I guess it will take a lifetime to understand and get used to it. I partly blame the stories we listened growing up for making this so hard to live with. The fairy tales always end with people living happily ever after and all glowing and gooey. In real life - the only gooey thing is the gondhu(gum) in TVS nagar post office. So henceforth, fairy tales are going to be changed, with a touch of normalcy.
So Cinderella got her Prince Charming and they got married. They lived happily in the castle, but not ever after. No. They fought over his hunting with friends and her preoccupation with their kids. They threw plate at each other in their imagination. And then they made up. And one day one of them died. The other probably died a few days or years afterward, wondering what went wrong with the "ever after" part.
Snow white and the prince married and lived happily, for a while. She took a bite from so may other free apples and fell asleep, vomited and coughed up bunny rabbits, all of which the prince had to remedy. And then the prince went about looking for an apple that would make her hate apples. And then one day, she ran away to a land far far away with apple orchards.
The frog turned to a prince and married the princess. After many years of bliss, they got into an argument and walked around the palace arguing. They reached a well and the prince tried to kiss the princess to stop arguing. But she had turned into a frog now. No one knows what happened after that.
These are just a few of the fairy tales we have heard as kids but you get the drift, don't you? If you have kids, make sure you tell them a normal story. Don't raise their expectations in life. It is one thing to be positive and another to be misleading. You know it is just a fairy tale. The child, or its sub conscious mind does not.
5 comments:
Thank you for writing this post.
'Only you will remain with yourself forever.' Wah! Not too sure what prompted this post. But yes, everything in life, good things and bad things), has a shelf life period.
I don't know whether to blame it completely on the 'be-perennially-optimistic' upbringing/outlook we've been forced with, but reality hits you hard, especially when you have to face it all by yourself. None of the 'story-tellers' are going to be with you then.
And please write more!
Thanks Viju, will definitely try to write more :)
Hi Sound! I seriously believe we have been fed a very (deceptive)optimistic outlook by our society. We've been trained to think that everything will ALWAYS end well, but not how to cope up when it does not (which is perfectly normal).
One of my fav sayings: "I love people. I love my family, my children ... but inside myself is a place where I live all alone and that's where you renew your springs that never dry up.- Pearl Buck"
Great post! --- Parvathy
Thanks Parvathy! And that is a nice quote.
so nicely written...just happened to visit this blog but now I m going to keep one day aside to read every post of yours from the first to the last. keep writing.
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